This New Year create lasting change in your life through the powerful practice of ritual. A ritual is series of actions performed in a ceremony to remind us of the interconnectedness of all of life. Rituals provide us with a sense of renewal and offer us a time-out from our every day routine; our habitual existence. Metaphorically speaking, rituals are an oasis, a time to rest, replenish, and restore ourselves on our long and winding path through life.
This New Year’s ritual is designed to be performed on the eve before the New Year or in the days leading up to it.
The following ritual can be done alone or in the company of close, trusted loved ones- i.e. your closest homies.
What you’ll need:
Blank sheets of Paper
Fireplace, or safe place to burn papers
Reflect, Process and Release the Past
Before going forward, take some time to reflect on the past year, and decade.
Give thanks for all the wonderful experiences that enriched your life and your soul. Acknowledge all the things you are proud of. Celebrate your successes and gains. Write it all down. Make a highlight reel of your year and decade. Use the worksheet provided in my Reflections Post for inspiration.
This will help you prepare for the work ahead.
Now, think about the relationships, situations and patterns that gave you a lot of heartache. Get a blank sheet of paper and write down everything about these experiences that dropped you into fear—whether it showed up as anger, resentment, judgement, scarcity, anxiety or any other form of negativity.
As you journal, allow yourself to fully feel any emotions that come up; pain, sorrow, sadness, anger. Breathe deep. Cry. Curse. Stomp your feet. Tantrum. Let it all out.
It may be difficult, but when you allow yourself to look at and feel your deepest, darkest emotions, the very act of making them conscious is liberating, allowing you to heal and move forward on your journey, free of attachments from past pains.
After processing your emotions, reflect on the lessons that each difficult situation has brought you. In every challenge there is an opportunity for growth and expansion. Journal on your paper about the lesson and growth from each experience. Once you extract the lesson, resolve to take it with you and leave the painful experience behind. Be willing to forgive everyone involved, including yourself, and let go of any toxic and self-sabotaging patterns.
Now, on your sheet of paper, write an intention to help you affirm your decision to extract the lesson and release the painful event. Use the example below for inspiration or create our own.
“Dear Higher Self/ God/ Spirit/ Universe,
I am willing to release everything that has brought me pain and suffering. I surrender to you all that no longer serves me for healing, cleansing and clearing. I ask that you help me to forgive myself and others so that I may align my vision to see things from a loving perspective as I move forward with grace, strength, courage and divine love.”
(signed your name)
Release and surrender your past to the flames of transformation.
Now, safely, burn the paper. The ritual of burning is a powerful process of release. Fire is an alchemical process of transformation and whatever you have burnt on this paper both metaphorically and energetically is transformed.
Clear Your Space
After you’ve released your past to the flames of transformation follow it up by smudging your body and home with sacred sage. Sage smudging is an ancient Native tradition in which a dried bundle of the plant is burnt and its smoke is used for space and energy clearing. This is a powerful way to remove negative energy and even unwanted spirits. You can purchase sage from most new age stores or click here to buy online. There are also affordable starter smudging kits available that include sage, palo santo, abalone shell and feather- click here to see.
When you’re ready to clear yourself and your space, light the sage bundle at one end, keep an abalone shell underneath to catch ashes, and fan the smoke, using a feather fan or swift movements, all around the body. Begin at the feet and work your way up to the head. If you're with others you can take turns smudging one another- this is helpful for smudging the backside of the body. After clearing your personal energy, wave the smoke around the corners and centers of each room in the home. Outline the frames of windows and doors and open all windows to allow the old energy to release and allow fresh air to flow through. As you move through the clearing ritual repeat this prayer or create one of your own.
“I command all negative energy to leave this space and I invite divine love and grace to be put in its place.”
Create Your Vision of 2020
Whenever you let something go, you create room for something new to enter.
After releasing old emotional baggage and clearing both your physical and energetic space, you are now ready to consciously create a blissful beginning for the year ahead.
Before creating wishes and intentions for the year to come, align with your higher self to ensure that everything you wish to create comes from a place of truth and inspiration rather than fear, scarcity and lack.
To do this, create a sacred space or alter. Light some candles and incense and bring any sacred objects or offerings with you; images, statues, stones, flowers, etc. Play soft, soothing music in the background.
Ground yourself through a quiet meditation. Use a guided meditation such as my Yoga Nidra to Attract Your Heart's Desires, specifically designed to be used for the new year, or sit quietly for 10 minutes focusing on your breath.
When you feel centered and clear write your intentions for the year to come.
What are you calling into your life? What do you want more of? How do you want to feel in 2020?
Use the worksheets that I have created to help you Set Your Intentions and Find Your Word for 2020.
When you’re finished writing out your intentions spend some time sitting quietly with your words or share them with the group. Keep them someplace safe where you can reference to them throughout the year.
Put your intentions into movement through the ancient ritual of dance. Put on some happy feel good tunes and have a dance party. Move your body. Feel joy in your heart. Laugh. Be silly. Play. Have fun. Know that everything you wish for and desire is already yours. Your only job now is to feel good and enjoy the gifts of life, this will align your frequency with that of your desires, thus making you a magnet to attract them into your life!
Many blessing to you in the New Year!
Love, Light and Aloha
If you’re interested in learning more about how you can align with your desires in 2020, schedule a free 15-minute Alignment Session call with me to find out more about how I can support you as you align with your dreams and desires.
Another great way to set your course for the new year is to choose a word. A single word that encapsulates what you want to focus on, what you need to improve, what you want or need more of, or what you are calling-in. One word that you can focus on every day, for the next 365 days. One word that sums up who you want to be, how you want to show up, or how you want to live your life.
Choosing a single word provides an anchor and encourages you to consciously (and subconsciously) consider this focus word as you move forward throughout the year. It will become the compass that directs your decisions and guides your steps as you move forward on your journey.
Are you ready to discover the impact one- word can make in your life?
Sometimes we are crystal clear on our focus for the year ahead and a word comes to us immediately, as you read this you might already have your word for 2020. Other times we need a little inspiration to get the energy moving and flowing.
If you need a little inspiration to find your word, use the prompts below to get started.
1. Journal your responses to these questions.
How do you want to feel this year?
What does your heart desire, long for?
What are you calling in?
What do you want more of in your life?
What is something that you’d like to improve on?
What personal trait would you like to embody or enhance?
What are the core feelings underneath your dreams and desires?
How will you feel when you have your desires?
What common themes, if any, showed up in your intentions for the year ahead?
(See my post on Intention Setting to set your intentions for the year)
2. Now, without censoring yourself, write down every word that comes to you, don’t give it too much thought, just write whatever presents itself to you.
You can use list of 155 examples below to get you started.
Now look back over the words that you’ve written down and see which one calls out to you.
This is your word for 2020!
Write it down! Put it somewhere that you can see it often; write it on a post-it or notecard, or if you have a vision board put it on your board.
Many blessing in the year to come!
Love, Light and Aloha!
Get clear on what you're calling into your life in 2020 and beyond. It is difficult to attract and align with the energy you need to manifest your dreams and desires if you aren't clear on your intentions.
This post and attached PDF worksheets were created, with the intention of helping you get clear on your intentions for this year.
An intention sets the compass of your heart. It aims your attention in the direction of your desires and wishes.
Each year, in the final weeks leading up to the new year, I like to spend time reflecting on my year past and preparing for my year ahead. I set aside quiet time where I can sit undisturbed for an ample amount of time. I meditate, journal, reflect on my past and envision my future. It is from this quiet space that I can listen to my heart and get clear on the things I want to acknowledge and release and what I want to call in.
I have found that reflection is a powerful tool for improving my perspective on myself and my life. It is an opportunity for me to celebrate myself, my journey and my life. Reflection boosts my self-esteem and confidence and it helps me to set the foundation for solid intention setting for the year to come. When feeling accomplished and aligned with my life I can create intentions with a courageous heart.
Read more about reflections and get my refection PDF worksheet here.
After reflecting on my year past I feel ready to create my vision of my year to come. Reflecting helps me to clear my slate and return to a blank canvas. It is here that I am able to place my new visions, dreams, wishes and desires. As I write out my intentions for the year, I connect with the feelings of these desires and wishes. I imagine that they are present in my life now and really feel into them. I get clear on what I want to call in and attract. I note the experiences I wish to have and the ways in which I desire to feel.
With my intentions, I then create a vision board and affirmations to accompany them. Throughout the year I revisit my intentions and vision board, changing them as needed. As I grow, change and evolve so do my visions and intentions, therefore I like to keep things fluid and moving, continuously clearing out and creating space for the new.
With love, I offer you these two worksheets to assist you in your journey of creating intentions for the year to come and beyond.
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Many blessings to you in the year to come! Aloha, Love & Light- Melinda
Each year, before I sit down to write out my intentions and desires for the year to come, I like to spend time reflecting on the year past; experiences had, areas of growth, relationships, significant events and memorable moments. Reflection allows me the opportunity to look back on just how magical the year has been. And when I connect with the feelings of love and gratitude for my life and the experiences I've had, I put myself on a higher vibration to then create my intentions for the year to come.
Reflection has become a valuable activity in my life. I used to struggle with acknowledging my accomplishments and growth as an individual. Unknowingly, this was contributing to my low self-esteem and sense of worth. Reflecting on my experiences and achievements has helped me to improve my perspective of myself and my outlook on my life.
It is so easy to move through a period of time, a week, a month, a year or even a decade and feel like we haven't done much. How often have you asked someone "What's new?" only to hear, "Same o'l, same o'l" as their response. Perhaps you've even responded that way yourself. And while the individual surely has had changes of circumstances and experiences, without taking the time to reflect back on them, it can feel like nothing has changed and that everything is the same. Life, at times, can feel monotonous, like we aren't really moving in any direction at all.
I have found that reflection is a powerful tool in bringing my attention to all that I have accomplished, allowing me an opportunity to acknowledge and even celebrate all that I've done and how far I've come. So when someone asks me "What's new with you? ", I usually have a lot to share.
There are many different ways and times in which you might decide to use the process of reflection.
Annual reflection is a favorite time of mine, as I mentioned above. I find great value in reflecting on the past year, prior to setting my intentions for the year to come. As I look back at all that I have achieved, my areas of growth, difficulties overcome and so on, with a grateful heart for each thing, I begin to raise my vibration. I move into the frequency of feeling good, the frequency of love. And in this place I then set my intentions for the year to come. The reflection process helps me to feel good about myself, my journey and my life. And when I'm feeling good, I become a magnet for more good things to come my way. I have included a free downloadable and printable document (at the top of this post) for you to use to reflect back on 2019 and the past decade. The first page is a Highlight Reel of the year broken down by each month and the second page contains journal prompts to assist you in your reflection process.
Continue reading for more instances in which reflection might be beneficial to you.
When I was going through depression I would often reflect back each day and find one accomplishment, even if that was doing laundry or brushing my teeth. At that time in my life it was extremely important for me to acknowledge even the smallest of accomplishments. That has now transitioned into a similar activity that my partner and I do each night. We reflect back on our day and note five things in which we are grateful for. You can find this activity, and more, in my e-Book The Magic of Gratitude.
I also like to reflect back quarterly throughout the year. I tend to do this in alignment with the seasons. I look back at the three month period and note accomplishments, lessons, growth, etc. I also use this as a time to check-in with my vision board and recreate as I see fit to stay in alignment with my desires.
Monthly reflections and even weekly reflections can be helpful as well, it all depends on the individual and the circumstances.
Overall I have found that reflection calls my attention to the things that I have accomplished and/or experienced which might have easily gone unnoticed or forgotten. Reflection allows an opportunity to note and even celebrate all of the steps in our journey; the gigantic ones, the tiny ones, the seemingly backwards ones, and all of the others in-between.
As we near the end of this year, and this decade, I invite you to set aside some time for reflection. Time to celebrate yourself, your journey and your life.
Many blessings to each of you!
May all of your desires come to you in the year ahead.
Gratitude has to power to transform your life. It has the ability dissolves difficulties, ease pain and free you from suffering. Gratitude is powerful tool that, when used daily, can align you with the highest frequency of all, the frequency of love.
“Gratitude will shift you to a higher frequency, and you will attract much better things.”
~ Rhonda Byrne ~
Research has long shown that gratitude is good for you; psychologically, physically, and relationally. Studies show that gratitude can improve your quality of sleep, reduce lifetime risks of anxiety, depression and substance abuse, increase your experience of joy and love and improve your relationships.
There are many ways that you can bring gratitude into your life and into your daily routine.
For ideas and inspiration check out my new book, The Magic of Gratitude : 35 gratitude practices designed to raise your vibration.
I recommend finding 2-3 gratitude practices that you can begin to bring into your daily routine.
As the magic of gratitude begins to flow through your life, it will bring you an abundance of blessings and joy.
Gratitude is the key that unlocks love and happiness in our lives.
Here are three of my favorite ways to make gratitude a part of my daily practice.
These practices are snippets drawn from The Magic of Gratitude.
1. There is a brief moment each morning, a moment so small that it goes unnoticed to most, yet it is arguably the most powerful moment of ones day as sets the tone and course of how the rest of the day will unfold. I like to use this magic moment to begin my day with a grateful heart. Each morning, before my eyes open to the light of the new day, I say the following phrase; “I am so blessed and grateful for this day.” That's it. It really is that simple.
2. Each morning I write down ten things that I am grateful for in my gratitude journal. This is also a powerful practice for shifting my energy when I'm feeling down on myself or my life.
“I am so blessed and grateful for _______________ because _______________.”
When you bring your attention to WHY you are grateful for a particular thing you deepen your connection with the feeling of gratitude.
"He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not but rejoices for those which he has."
Some studies report that five minutes of daily gratitude journaling can increase your long-term well-being by more than 10% and increase optimism by up to 15%. A daily gratitude practice may also reduce materialism.
3. Each night my partner and I take turns sharing gratitude. We use the following formula to share.
While one person is speaking the other is practicing active listening, listening attentively without interrupting.
Five things that he/she is grateful for that happened during that day.
Think if this as a gratitude highlight reel. This encourages you to look back over the events of your day and seek-out five golden nuggets to appreciate.
Three things you appreciate about the other.
Gratitude strengthens relationships. When you appreciate your partner you help them to feel good about who they are and what they do. It is also nice to hear the things that your partner appreciates about you- things you might not have otherwise seen in yourself. This simple act of appreciating one another is often overlooked in relationships. Showing your appreciation can help reduce stress and tension between partners while creating a loving bond.
Two things that you appreciate about yourself.
This is often the hardest of them all. Practicing self-appreciation strengthens your self-esteem and sense of worth. It is an opportunity to seek-out the greatness in yourself and recognize and honor it, not only to yourself, but to another being.
“Love and gratitude are powerful tools that can undo negative thoughts and beliefs that have manifested in your life.” ~ Unknown
I encourage you to invite your friends, family and loved ones to join you in your daily gratitude practice, as this will help to keep the momentum of the magic going in your life. When we share our experiences with others it not only helps to keep us accountable but it strengths our connection with those we share the experiences with as well.
For more gratitude practices and inspiration check out my new book The Magic of Gratitude:
35 gratitude practices designed to raise your vibration.